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Intermission: Cartoon Break

Not feeling super eloquent this week, although I’m working on a couple of topics.   If you want to see longer posts soon, give us some encouragement in the form of comments!  Feeds our egos, and all that.

Had a debate with a Privilege Denying Dude this week on FB.      And while I no longer watch Glee, I am very proud that several people have googled “Ryan Murphy sexism” and stumbled upon our blog by way of my rant.  Any of you lot still lurking and reading?    Poor Santana, or something.

See you next week with some opinions, I promise.  Regardless of how eloquent they are.

 

Take it away, Kate!

Kate Beaton's website is harkavagrant.com

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Giving Thanks

For DBLK, who has been there since we were tiny.  Happy 23rd birthday!

For Elizabeth Warren.

For Orthodox Jewish female Rhodes scholars.

For Roe v Wade.

For the repeal of Mississippi’s Issue 26.

For the release of Egyptian-American journalist Mona Eltahaway, may her physical and emotional wounds heal quickly.

For the moral courage of Daniel Radcliffe and Josh Hutcherson

For the women on Corporette, who rose to the occasion as I began to mourn.

For Kate Beaton.

For Nicki Minaj.  (Watch the interview video, really.  It’s less than 2 minutes long.)

For feminist Muslim reality TV shows.

For safe spaces and open arms.

For two amazing co-adventurers in the world of issue blogging.

For all the comments.

For the hilarious site stats.

For you.

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Lady Godiva mourns

My friend passed away this weekend, so there will be no blogging for me this week.

Yea, though I walk though the valley of the shadow of Death…

Filler, Filler, Filler

I’ve drafted and scrapped my music analysis a few times so far because the words aren’t coming out right.   Perhaps I should have taken that course in Creative Nonfiction?

Anyway.  Both as filler and because I think it’s really interesting, I am going to quote the anonymous Internet advice columnist Coke Talk on feminism.   I generally agree with at least 80% of her advice.

What do you all think about it?

-Coke Talk is crude, crude, crude and we love her for it

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Hermione Granger and the Patriarchal Dress Code

I had planned a post on egalitarianism for this week, but Christina’s poignant essay on Monday gave me pause.    This is less a response than a musing along similar/related themes.

As some of you know, I worked as a semi-professional costumer/designer for several years.  After a heart-wrenching amount of internal debate I have decided not to make it my career choice, although gifs like this  make me regret the decision.   As a costume designer, as an aspiring “obscenely polished” corporette (:-P), and as a pseudo-Orthodox Jewess (I call myself shomeret mitzvoth or observant), I think about clothing and appearance roughly 870,053 times a day.   More if I’m at a theatrical performance or at synagogue on the High Holidays…

The HP headline is not that relevant here.  Like every female bookworm with bushy hair in the past decade, I always assumed Hermione Granger was written about me.  During freshman year of college, the girls on my hall who Sorted everyone in my dorm decided I was Molly Weasley, which is much more accurate.  (Don’t. Mess.)   But Hermione is a fashion-awkward brown-nosing do-gooder, just like my teenage self.

Every outfit a conscious decision

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Meet Charlotte

LadyG is a little overwhelmed with responsibilities right now and so, like the grown-up she purports to be, she needs to take another week off from srs blogging.

In the meantime, meet Charlotte Corday, an alter-ego born of frustration with societal stupidity and general backwardness.   After all, if Christina can be Count Dohna sometimes, why can’t a Lady also be a Revolutionary?

LadyG believes in effecting change from the inside: calmly, carefully, deadly.    A Hufflepuff with Slytherin ambitions, if you will.

Charlotte believes that the inside is ROTTEN and BROKEN and WHO CARES ABOUT FIXING IT LET’S JUST DESTROY IT.   Obviously Gryffindor through-and-through.

LadyG believes in reasoning with opponents until they prove themselves unwilling to listen.  (re: the original FB argument, not the awesome WordPress discussion)

Charlotte gets all TigerBeatdown ON YOUR FACE.

LadyG carefully investigates claims of misogyny and sexism because she thinks straight white men are also done a horrible disservice by gender stereotypes.

Charlotte has this to say:

obviously someone's been reading the Feminist Hulk twitter

(Charlotte has been listening to a lot of Paramore this week, and she has no regrets.)

LadyG is working on a music video analysis involving gender performance, but she can’t promise when it will show up.   Would you like to see content from Charlotte sometimes?    Vote in the comments!

PS Donna Noble says it best.

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Drake, what are you doing?

So, uh, Drake apparently has a new single out.

[If you’re international, I apologize for the Hulu.  I have the feeling it’s the only way.]

my transcription: (0:29-0:45)

don’t make it too easy girl 

don’t take it too fast

yeaaaah

that’s it right there

that’s it

do it just like that

only you can do it just like that

i love it when your hair’s still wet

cuz you just took a shower

running on the treadmill and

only eating salad

sound so smart like you graduated college

like you went to yale but you probably went to howard

knowing you

O.o

I would be remiss not to point out that Aubrey Drake Graham

  • is half Black and all Jewish 
  • is still most famous for portraying Jimmy-in-the-wheelchair on everyone’s favorite Canadian teenage soap opera
  • apparently also goes by “Drizzy
  • IS WORKING SO HARD TO BE TAKEN SRSLY YOU GUYZ
I’m not sayin’ I agree; I’m just sayin’
I have no comment on Nicki Minaj’s outfit at this time.
I’ll be back with long[er]-form content starting in November.   Chag sameach!
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Surviving Sexual Abuse: A Tribute to the Quietly Amazing Victims In Our Lives

This piece was written on August 5th, 2011.   I intended to post it on Tisha B’Av, but the week before Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement [and Reckoning] will have to do instead.   I have changed only a few words here and there, to clarify a few statements.   My awe and respect haven’t changed an iota.

A recent conversation with someone who is probably not reading this got me thinking about strong women, femininity, and what it takes to face abuse.

I did promise a response [to Christina] on DSK and the rape case, especially regarding the role of Judaism in France as a political AND ethnic identity, but the more I think about it, the less interested I am in writing it down.  You’ll have to catch me in person if you want to know more about my thoughts on that.

Rather than “picking a side” and accusing either DSK or his accusers, Nafissatou Diallo (New York) and Tristane Banon (France), of any crime, local or international, legal or moral, I would rather talk about what we as a society can do to support victims of sexual and domestic abuse. Now, I am not trained as a rape victim’s advocate nor do I particularly want to be.  I am an activist by passion and vocation, but fighting rape on the front lines is not what I do best, nor what I want to get better at doing as a career.   Still, that doesn’t mean I don’t want to talk about it as a feminist and as a moral human being.

Before I begin rambling:

  • The National Domestic Abuse Hotline

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

http://www.thehotline.org/

  • The National Sexual Assault Hotline

1.800.656.HOPE

https://ohl.rainn.org/online/

  • The Trevor Project

1-866-488-7386

http://www.thetrevorproject.org/dear-trevor/youth

  • National Jewish resources seem to vary state by state.  Please Google for them!

 Please, please, please call for help if you need it, or you think someone in your life does.   If you don’t know what kind of advice or support that person needs — or how to give it — call these numbers and ask.

If you take anything away from this post, please know this:

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

And so many people around the world, from all backgrounds, care so much about YOU.   Yes, really.

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Never Forget

We Jews are known for our excellent memories — we haven’t let a single thing go since we became a nation.

Andy Levy and I might not agree on the morality of his employer, but at least we both agree that domestic violence is never acceptable, and that if you’re Team Breezy, you’re Team Criminal.

I will not blog about Mr. Brown here (or tag him) because he doesn’t deserve it.  If you partner with him, you are a sell-out and you have no integrity.  You will have to do some pretty serious grovelling to get my respect back.   The fact that he is talented and famous makes it all the worse.  I will blog about Rihanna in the future.

I’ll be offline until Sunday due to Rosh Hashanah.   May we all be inscribed in the Book of Life, have a happy/healthy/successful New Year, and most importantly, never be afraid to face down misogynists, abusers, and criminals, no matter how popular they are.

If you’d like an unabashedly positive video for RH, please click here or here.  😉

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