Facebook Idiocy and Willful Ignorance: The ‘Slut isn’t Offensive’ Edition

I can’t always deal with facebook. I can’t always deal with normal, un-evil people who say things that they probably believe but don’t much care about, and when they’re unthinkingly attacking that which I hold very dear, I have a hard time staying calm. An acquaintance of mine shared the status update of a friend of his, and it went something like this:
‎”Slut-bashing is a cheap and easy way to feel powerful. If you feel insecure or ashamed about your own sexual desires, all you have to do is call a girl a ‘slut’ and suddenly you’re the one who is ‘good’ and on top of the social pecking order.” Societies shame individuals who express their sexuality in ways that do not conform to their society’s traditional values. I do not condone the shaming of deviant sexuality (as long as the deviant behavior does not involve some kind of coercion). Particularly because I don’t conform to them myself.”

To which someone (male) commented:

“The definition of slut: A slovenly or promiscuous woman. Whether people choose to be offended by it or not is up to them.”

Fucking seriously, dude?

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Srugim Season 3

Word on the street is that this is the last season 😦

While I don’t want to include any spoilers, I’ve been following it on YouTube. This season has shied away from what was promising to be a show that dealt with a lot of gender and sexuality issues. Season 1, for a while, appeared to be very focused on women’s issues, and Season 2 had a gay character (Sorry if that’s a spoiler! You should have caught up by now.). Aside from shomer negiah stuff (a common thread through all of the seasons), it’s relatively quiet. Actually, that’s not true – there are a few interesting things going on, that could be interesting to discuss. I’m thinking specifically about Amir, and perhaps Hodaya, and definitely Yifat.I won’t comment further on any developments in Season 3 for the sake of people who care what is going on, but please, anyone out there who has been following it and wants to talk about it please discuss in the comments section (where there will definitely be spoilers if the discussion takes off, be warned!), since I am dying to talk about it with someone!

Season 3 Things we could discuss, titled as to not spoil too much:

The Sheitel! Ick!


What the bloggers at Srugim Recap call “Smug Pregnant”

Amir’s new friend. Bromance?

Also, here’s a link to the original video for Smug Pregnant. Those who are willing to brave the possibilities of finding spoilers, let’s discuss this video! I think the video certainly has a lot of truth to it. Note to friends: Please do not be smug pregnant. Ever. I will not indulge you.

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But seriously, guys.

But seriously, guys.

Stop telling me I don’t need my space. (For more awesome critiques of these ‘manarchist’ types, go to manarchistryangosling.tumblr.com).

Sexual Agency on Titanic

Titanic PosterI am a failure as a child of the nineties, because until a few days ago, I had never seen James Cameron’s 1997 classic, Titanic. (You know James Cameron, the one who directed Avatar? Anyone who thinks that directionality of recognition is odd is officially old.) I liked the movie quite a lot. There’s something about Cameron’s willingness to push film-making further than it has ever been pushed that allows the 3 hour length, the oh-so-perfect love story that also manages to be a commentary on class and the saccharine lines of adoration that the romantic leads speak to each other to work within this context of overindulgence on every level. Much has been said about almost every aspect of this movie, from the enormity of the budget, to the selection of the cast, and even to various social issues, such as class and wealth. A feminist analysis, however, has been much lacking. The only vaguely related pieces I could find were written by disgruntled Men’s Rights Activists looking for any reason to hate women and finding, of all things, “women and children first” to be the most egregious example of feminism run amok they had ever seen. Now, the movie takes place in 1912, before the modern feminist movement had really taken hold, but I guess those suffragists (no, I don’t call them suffragettes) were just going crazy, demanding to be saved from boats and all.

Anyway, what I see nothing of at all, despite the fact that in one viewing, it smacked me in the face with its obviousness, is a treatment of Rose Dewitt Bukater, later Rose Dawson’s, incredible sexual agency. Like, seriously. Lady has some game.

(Note: there are clips from the movie preceding every sub-point of analysis, and some of them are NSFW/generally graphic. To be perfectly honest, much of the writing is graphic as well. You have been warned)

On to the sex! (That is, a discussion of sexual agency)

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Intermission: Cartoon Break

Not feeling super eloquent this week, although I’m working on a couple of topics.   If you want to see longer posts soon, give us some encouragement in the form of comments!  Feeds our egos, and all that.

Had a debate with a Privilege Denying Dude this week on FB.      And while I no longer watch Glee, I am very proud that several people have googled “Ryan Murphy sexism” and stumbled upon our blog by way of my rant.  Any of you lot still lurking and reading?    Poor Santana, or something.

See you next week with some opinions, I promise.  Regardless of how eloquent they are.


Take it away, Kate!

Kate Beaton's website is harkavagrant.com

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Giving Thanks

For DBLK, who has been there since we were tiny.  Happy 23rd birthday!

For Elizabeth Warren.

For Orthodox Jewish female Rhodes scholars.

For Roe v Wade.

For the repeal of Mississippi’s Issue 26.

For the release of Egyptian-American journalist Mona Eltahaway, may her physical and emotional wounds heal quickly.

For the moral courage of Daniel Radcliffe and Josh Hutcherson

For the women on Corporette, who rose to the occasion as I began to mourn.

For Kate Beaton.

For Nicki Minaj.  (Watch the interview video, really.  It’s less than 2 minutes long.)

For feminist Muslim reality TV shows.

For safe spaces and open arms.

For two amazing co-adventurers in the world of issue blogging.

For all the comments.

For the hilarious site stats.

For you.

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Lady Godiva mourns

My friend passed away this weekend, so there will be no blogging for me this week.

Yea, though I walk though the valley of the shadow of Death…

Filler, Filler, Filler

I’ve drafted and scrapped my music analysis a few times so far because the words aren’t coming out right.   Perhaps I should have taken that course in Creative Nonfiction?

Anyway.  Both as filler and because I think it’s really interesting, I am going to quote the anonymous Internet advice columnist Coke Talk on feminism.   I generally agree with at least 80% of her advice.

What do you all think about it?

-Coke Talk is crude, crude, crude and we love her for it

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